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Mothering Magazine Sponsored Chat with Hathor the Cowgoddess --Hathor lives in the middle of urban sprawl with her dearest super-husband and three wee and wise kids. She has had an unassisted birth in the middle of her 700 square foot apartment, she breastfeeds on demand and in public, she shares sleep, maintains constant contact and unschools. Not only does she do all of this, she does it with grand style and verve. With extravagant and outrageous behavior. And with her trusty sidekick baby in a sling.

Hathor is the completely true product of the imagination of Heather Cushman-Dowdee, an outraged (because she might look distracted but she is paying attention! ) mama who has done almost all of the above (that part is autobiography)... except for the part that she totally makes up (those parts are wishful thinking). The raucous exploits of Hathor and her family are produced in comic form on the web and printed in many, many zines and magazines and books, too.

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6/7/06

25 mothers in attendance

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20:07:13 Webmama_Tina ok today we have our wonderful cow goddess hathor again!
20:07:15 Webmama_Tina MOOO!!!
20:07:16 Webmama_Tina LOL!
20:07:25 Webmama_Tina i need a moo cow emoticon
20:07:32 hathor hee hee hee! moo to you too
20:07:34 Webmama_Tina have to go look for one later
20:07:36 Webmama_Tina :)
20:07:43 milkymama that would be great!
20:07:52 Webmama_Tina ok mamas, start throwing out your question marks and i'll start collecting thme
20:07:53 Webmama_Tina them
20:08:09 Webmama_Tina and hathor, if you want to give an intro just in case there's someone here who doesn't know who you are....
20:08:15 Webmama_Tina then let me know when you're ready for your first question
20:08:16 hathor Okay my 1 year old is going to sleep in arms...yum getting very sleepy, very sleepy
20:08:28 hathor and she's out!
20:08:58 milkymama a year old already, wow
20:09:09 hathor Hi I'm Hathor, (Heather in real life)
20:09:30 JustMoza ?
20:09:38 hathor My littlest is going to be two a tthe end of this month! can't believe it
20:10:03 Webmama_Tina upcoming chatters:  JustMoza
20:10:13 hathor and I'm thinking she's going to be my last, so who knows what will happen
20:10:22 hathor with the comic?
20:10:34 JustMoza It's been a while for me since I've been in chat so please forgive me. Now Hathor - HOW do you find the time?
20:11:03 hathor perhaps I'll start having to make stuff up, :angel:
20:11:07 JustMoza I only have one who is 8 now (cry my BF days are long over)
20:11:13 Webmama_Tina lol
20:11:34 hathor How do I find the time? hmmmmmmmmmmmm I wonderi f I have time?
20:11:45 Webmama_Tina (sorry, that was a lol for what hathor said, not you moza)  :)
20:12:22 hathor My dh is really a hands on guy but I still don't leave most of the kids hardly ever, but having more than 1 helps, I think because they play with each other
20:12:29 JustMoza lol  :D
20:12:36 hathor and I draw really really reallly fast!
20:12:44 hathor much faster than I type
20:13:34 hathor I come up with ideas when I'm out and about wit h the kiddos and then draw them sitting at the kitchen table
20:13:57 hathor just takes a few minutes...then I spend way toooooooooo much time on the computer.
20:14:01 JustMoza I'm a work at home while unschooling mom and I have a hard time, are you still unschooling?
20:14:33 hathor yep, I unschool too, and
20:14:49 hathor spend a LOT of time with the kids at parkdays.
20:15:10 milkymama what exactly is unschooling"?"
20:15:32 hathor Unschooling is homeschooling without the curriculum,
20:15:40 milkymama oh cool
20:15:53 hathor and without t he idea that the parents have to TEACH for the kids to learn.
20:16:11 JustMoza Unschooling is a kind of homeschooling, it's very dependent upon what the child wants to learn
20:16:43 hathor The idea is that the kids WANT to learn, and that a lot of times grownups just get in their way :)
20:17:06 sophy ?
20:17:25 hathor we don't look at everything as a learning experience, but funny just about everything is!
20:17:43 Webmama_Tina sophy's up next after justmoza's done
20:17:55 hathor It's kind of hard to describe, but how your child learns to walk is unschooling....
20:17:59 JustMoza You can go ahead sophy
20:18:05 hathor sophy?
20:18:13 sophy How do you discipline?
20:18:22 hathor Well....
20:18:34 sophy I have a 3.5 dd and 1. ds
20:18:50 hathor I go from gentle discipline
20:19:03 hathor to barely holding it together some days
20:19:10 sophy same here
20:19:22 hathor just like most of you
20:19:47 hathor I try to look at our family as a team that works things out
20:19:47 sophy lately i've been taking my dd to the bathroom for a time-in
20:19:57 sophy if the little one is ok with it
20:20:03 hathor but I do have a temper sometimes too.
20:20:51 hathor Time-in a room worked a few times for us, but I have a difficult time getting my dd (eldest) to do anything she doesn't want to do
20:21:16 hathor so I have had to adapt to a more discussy type relationship.
20:21:31 JustMoza ?
20:21:42 hathor I've found a LOT of recent advice from How to Talk...
20:21:54 hathor The first chapter is all I've read
20:22:15 sophy thanks, that helps
20:22:17 hathor But my philosophy today is that I need to be quiet more often.
20:22:35 hathor I plan on doing some more comics about it soon...
20:22:47 sophy looking forward
20:23:00 hathor Hey, and I geta lot of help from a friend who runs www.enjoyparenting.com
20:23:31 hathor hehas a daily e-zine that gives me a helpful feeling to start the day
20:23:42 hathor JustMoza?
20:23:57 JustMoza I'm looking foward to new comics on the discussion technique myself
20:24:17 hathor It goes somethinig lke this
20:24:35 hathor My kids do something that make me crazy
20:24:35 JustMoza That's what we do is just talk about everything - talk about the rpos and cons of doing something - who it would upset - who it would upset etc
20:24:54 hathor my first reaction is not a good one
20:25:00 JustMoza pros & cons I mean - the older he gets the easier it is - how old is your oldest?
20:25:18 hathor so on good days I try taking  a deep breath, calming down and
20:25:31 hathor thinking of a better reaction.
20:25:59 hathor Usually when I think of a better reaction quite a few minutes have passed already
20:26:19 hathor and we can move on to something else :blush:
20:26:24 JustMoza I like to think that the reaction is my CHOICE - it's not something that just happens, I choose how my reaction happens, it is hard but it gets easier
20:27:01 JustMoza Sorry - so how old are your kids?
20:27:04 hathor My eldest is 9 and we have always had a volatile relationship, and a really lovely one too. She helps to keep me real
20:28:02 caitplove ?
20:28:17 JustMoza real is good- at that age they really call it like they see it! LOL
20:28:20 hathor Yes, I used ot think that my reaction was caused by others, my love for  my kidlets has shown me that my reaction has more to do with me.
20:28:38 hathor Isn't that the truth!
20:28:45 hathor caitplove ?
20:28:50 caitplove I don't have much of a ?, but I wanted you to know how much i appreciate what you do.
20:29:00 zalenskifine ?
20:29:05 caitplove I love your book, and show it to everyone to spread the word
20:29:30 hathor Why thank you... almost 2000 mamas getting my e-zine now! :D
20:29:36 Webmama_Tina argh my son is really hating me on the computer...juggling like crzy
20:30:02 caitplove I even won a shirt at a LLL event :)
20:30:15 hathor I love the letters I get and really love that so many people enjoy my little comic.
20:30:22 hathor conrgats!
20:30:38 hathor What event?
20:30:48 hathor I ov LLL :heart:
20:31:08 hathor I haven't been to a meeting in a long tmie
20:31:09 caitplove A chapel hill benefit and silent auction a couple months ago
20:31:14 hathor zalenskifine ?
20:31:38 hathor ahhhh chapel hill! I used to l ivien Raleighh..
20:31:41 kristenandmadeleine ?
20:31:46 caitplove that's where I am!!
20:31:50 hathor man I got a stiky keyboard!
20:31:52 Zoomommy ?
20:32:11 hathor zalenskifine ? your question?
20:32:59 zalenskifine