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Mothering Magazine Sponsored Chat with Marilyn Milos, RN , founder and director of the National Organization of Circumcision Information Resource Centers (NOCIRC) and coordinator of the International Symposia on Circumcision, Sexual Mutilations, and Genital Integrity. Marilyn received the California Nurses Association's award "for her dedication and unwavering commitment to righting a wrong" and "for her work on behalf of children to raise public consciousness about America's most unnecessary surgery" and the NurseWeek Nursing Excellence Award 2001 for Patient Advocacy.
www.mothering.com
5/4/05

31 mamas in attendance

**Note: You'll notice in these transcripts that Marilyn, our speaker, had some technical difficulties so I typed for her for awhile (I was on the phone with her while her computer downloaded the needed java virtual machine for the chatware.) I have made all Marilyn's words blue, though, even the ones I typed...so as to make it clear. :)

12:11:37 Webmama_Tina hang tight mamas...i'm on the phone with marilyn
12:11:43 Webmama_Tina she's getting the plugin
12:12:39 mamaperreca did anyone see the Penn and Teller show on showtime about circ. She was on there.
12:12:48 MOD_Angie really?
12:12:56 MOD_Angie were they for it or against?
12:13:12 Sustainer They were very much against it  :)
12:13:16 mamaperreca against it big time! I made DVD copies for friends
12:13:38 mamaperreca it was very good and kind of funny too
12:13:54 thebabysbum too bad I don't have showtime
12:14:07 mamaperreca they even showed a man with a restored foreskin.
12:14:31 MOD_Angie really?
12:14:40 MOD_Angie how cool
12:14:44 Webmama_Tina still on the phone with her...we are installing java....hold on
12:16:12 MOD_Angie np
12:16:37 feebee I saw that show. I thought it was great.
12:19:04 Webmama_Tina still working on java with marilyn
12:19:10 MOD_Angie ok
12:19:22 Webmama_Tina the download is going slowly
12:19:31 MOD_Angie she on dial-up?
12:19:51 Webmama_Tina yes she's on dial up
12:19:54 Webmama_Tina she apologizes...
12:19:59 Webmama_Tina she thought it was tomorrow
12:20:41 feebee There's been date confusion throughout on this one LOL
12:20:46 Webmama_Tina woops, yup
12:22:16 Webmama_Tina well marilyn's download is taking awhile so she is going to take questions via me on the phone with her here....
12:22:26 Webmama_Tina if you have a question throw out a question mark please
12:22:33 Webmama_Tina angie, can you start taking the list down then
12:22:34 Christy1980 what did she tink of the penn and teller show that she was on?
12:22:36 Webmama_Tina i'll do the intro
12:23:02 Christy1980 ?
12:23:10 Webmama_Tina hold on, we're going to do this like we normally do...put out a question mark first please...ah there ya go
12:23:57 maemery ?
12:24:14 Webmama_Tina from marilyn: i thought we couldn't have afforded to get such a good outreach""
12:24:25 MOD_Angie upcoming chatter(s):  Christy1980  maemery
12:24:41 Christy1980 what did she think of the penn and teller show about circ?
12:24:54 Webmama_Tina that was her answer to that question, woops...lol
12:25:00 Christy1980 oh ok lol
12:25:10 mamaperreca ?
12:25:14 Webmama_Tina next question
12:25:28 Webmama_Tina side note...she was just telling me, tina, about that show...sounded GREAT!
12:25:46 maemery we've decided not to circumcise if our baby is a boy, but my holistic doctor thinks it will setting him up for lots of infections and possibly cancer later on in life.  Is there any truth to the cancer thing?
12:26:04 Webmama_Tina for those joining us late...marilyn is on the phone with me...until her java download is complete...so i'm transcribing her answers... :)
12:26:17 MOD_Angie upcoming chatter(s):  mamaperreca
12:27:05 Webmama_Tina marilyn--no, in fact in countries where circ isn't active, denmark, finland, sweden, w/pretty much teh same hygenic practices as in the US....the penile cancer rate is the same or less than in US.""
12:27:51 maemery I wonder why he would say that...He is Jewish...maybe its a religious thing for him
12:27:51 Webmama_Tina ...in addition, the american cancer society states that cancer of the penis is a rare disease probably 1 in 100,000 elderly men...and is basically caused by cigarette smoking, poor hygiene, multiple sex partners, etc....""
12:28:10 Webmama_Tina ...the ACS says that circumcision should not be done in an attempt to prevent penile cancer...""
12:28:27 Webmama_Tina ...in fact, often cancers of the penis occur at the circumcision scar site....""
12:28:30 feebee ?
12:28:34 Webmama_Tina ...with regard to infections....""
12:28:54 Webmama_Tina ....we have to determine the cause of the infection and treat it conservatively...not by amputating body parts...""
12:29:05 Webmama_Tina ...back to the cancer issue.....""
12:29:37 Webmama_Tina ...one in 8 or 9 women will get breast cancer...it would make more sense to snip the breast buds of infant girls and be more protective then amputating the foreskins of baby boys...""
12:29:52 Webmama_Tina ...yes, he has a cultural bias...""
12:29:59 Webmama_Tina cultural religious bias
12:30:01 fourgrtkidos hi
12:30:26 Webmama_Tina not uncommon...because those that hold that belief are in denial about the truth about the harm of circumcision and the benefits of intact genitals...""
12:30:27 maemery thanks for the input!
12:30:38 mamaperreca Do you have any advice how to get through the birth/hospital stay less stressful?  We are planning not to leave his sight and put up a sign on our door and his bassinet stating no circumcision, But I am still worried about it...
12:30:39 Webmama_Tina next question
12:31:27 MOD_Angie upcoming chatter(s): mamaperreca
12:31:32 Webmama_Tina ok hold on...
12:32:17 caitplove ?
12:32:20 Webmama_Tina marilyn....i have baby tshirts of the universal no sign if that would make you feel better...""
12:32:28 Webmama_Tina most important is to not let them out of site...
12:32:43 Webmama_Tina don't let them take baby for any reason...
12:33:01 Webmama_Tina www.nocirc.org  sells the tshirts
12:33:37 Webmama_Tina click on nocirc publications and newsletters and merchandise is on pg 7...""
12:33:40 Webmama_Tina or...
12:33:54 Webmama_Tina look on front page on www.nocirc.org .... click on pamphlet #2...""
12:34:09 Webmama_Tina next question
12:34:21 feebee is that me?
12:34:25 feebee why did male circ keep hold in America while female circ died out?
12:35:00 Webmama_Tina angie, is feebee next?
12:35:15 MOD_Angie yes
12:35:30 Webmama_Tina ok
12:35:49 MOD_Angie upcoming chatter(s):  feebee   caitplove
12:36:14 Webmama_Tina marilyn says....circumcision infiltrated western medicine to prevent masturbation...""
12:36:26 Webmama_Tina ...because masturbation was believed to have caused a myriad of ills...""
12:36:47 Webmama_Tina ...anythign from headaches to scholiosis to masturbatory insanity...""
12:36:55 Webmama_Tina ...you're right it was done to both boys and girls...""
12:37:02 Webmama_Tina ..its a great question.""
12:37:17 Christy1980 ?
12:37:20 MOD_Angie how does it prevent it?
12:37:35 Webmama_Tina ...in 1996 a federal law went into effect outlawing female genital mutilation in the US...""
12:37:56 MOD_Angie supposely does circ make the penis less senstive?
12:37:57 Webmama_Tina that law, on its face, is unconstitutional because of its gender bias...""
12:38:05 Webmama_Tina in other words it lacks equal protection...""
12:38:24 fourgrtkidos Are there any ways to restore a forskin?
12:38:30 fourgrtkidos oops
12:38:31 Webmama_Tina female genital mutilation was practiced in the US, as late as 1970s...""
12:38:53 Christy1980 angie, dr kellog published something saying that doing a circ that w/out pain med was good b/c they would associtae pain w/ thier groin and would not touch it or have sex
12:38:53 Webmama_Tina of course, we know that episiotomy is also a form of genital mutilation...""
12:38:59 Webmama_Tina and it continues even today...""
12:39:02 feebee Yeah I don't know of any circumcised men who masturbate :rolls eyes:
12:39:37 Webmama_Tina the height of the circumcision mania, came after WW2, when birth had been pathologized, and women were giving birth in the hospital..""
12:40:05 Webmama_Tina so babies and their foreskins, came readily accessible and third party payers, insurance companies, were reimbursing for the circumcisions...""
12:40:43 Webmama_Tina ...female genital mutilation was never as common as male genital mutilation...which is probably why it was easier to erradicate....except we still have to work on stopping episiotomies...""
12:41:04 Webmama_Tina Friendly Reminder: Please do not post unless it is your turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please post a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have your question ready when your name is called. THANKYOU! :)"
12:41:20 Webmama_Tina who's next angie?
12:41:32 MOD_Angie upcoming chatter(s):  caitplove  Christy1980
12:41:34 fourgrtkidos ?
12:41:40 caitplove my question is concerning care of the intact penis- at his last visit my infant son's doctor started to do what appeared to me as retracting  in order to check for phimosis." is this  legitimate? I'm not sure if her intent was to fully retract or not."
12:42:08 Webmama_Tina ....circumcision makes masturbation more difficult because of the lack of the gliding mechanism of the foreskin...""
12:42:18 caitplove I stopped her as I felt there was no need to play with it
12:42:46 Quirky ?
12:42:55 hummingbear ?
12:43:04 Webmama_Tina in addition, what's lost when the foreskin is amputated are 10-20,000 specialized erogenous nerve endings that allow a male to know what his penis is feeling....where he is, relation to orgasmic threshhold..."
12:44:07 Webmama_Tina FYI....marilyn is on the phone with me
12:44:28 Webmama_Tina she's about done downloading java...she thought the chat was tomorrow....
12:45:55 Webmama_Tina leave it alone, leave it alone leave it alone....""
12:46:04 Webmama_Tina wash the intact penis like you would a finger...""
12:46:31 Webmama_Tina