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12:21:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
today we have our wonderful peggy o'mara with us again! |
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12:21:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
i'm sure we all know peggy, but just in case there's
someone that doesn't....peggy will you please introduce
yourself? :) |
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12:21:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
and don't mind me as i post welcomes for newcomers....
:) |
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12:22:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
celtic_angel will be our queue-keeper today as soon as
she breaks up a fight between her twins...lol |
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12:22:12 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Thank you, Tina. It's great to be here. A little hot and
bothered today. I went from cool weather a week ago to
soooo hot. But the plants are blooming and I'm crazy
watering everything. |
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12:22:21 |
Webmama_Tina |
so go ahead and throw out your question marks and i'll
keep track for her til she gets back |
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12:22:25 |
skimonami3 |
? |
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12:22:34 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I'm the mother of four adult children and have been the
editor and publisher of mothering for 25 years. |
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12:22:47 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I'm eager to hear your questions and concerns. |
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12:23:13 |
maemery |
? |
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12:23:28 |
heids70 |
? |
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12:23:30 |
sweetpea |
? |
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12:23:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok looks like skimonami3 is first |
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12:23:34 |
skimonami3 |
I have been threatened by my in-laws about not
immunizing my daughter anymore,,,everyone thinks I am
nuts...I am sure this is a common question,,,but how do
i deal with this? |
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12:23:38 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
We've had our fabulous website, mothering.com since 1995
and it has really grown thanks to all of you. |
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12:23:58 |
skimonami3 |
I have done plenty of personal research on both
sides,,,no one will listen to me |
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12:24:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
Upcoming chatters: maemery heids70 sweetpea |
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12:24:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
right now its skimonami3 |
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12:24:36 |
DODAD |
....add to Peggy's inro...and one of the only sentient
publishers in the universe I might ad...also my
hero...you are saving us from ourselves Peggy...and we
are so much better for it. THANKS! |
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12:24:48 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol |
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12:24:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
Friendly Reminder: Please do not post unless it is your
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12:24:59 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
That is a common question and a hard one. It seems to me
that you have to keep these decisions as well as
long-term nursing to yourself. It's really your
business. Keep this very personal decision to yourself
and find a support group of people who agree |
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12:25:09 |
laurawv |
? |
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12:25:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
At this time, please keep all side conversations to
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12:25:19 |
ikeessyou |
? |
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12:25:38 |
ilovezoeystar |
? |
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12:25:40 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
with you. Ask your in-laws to give you the opportunity
to make decisions for your family and in time they will
come to appreciate your concerns. Check out the forums
on motheringdotcommune for support. |
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12:25:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
Upcoming chatters: maemery heids70 sweetpea laurawv
ikeessyou ilovezoeystar |
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12:25:57 |
skimonami3 |
the nursing too,,,the cosleeping,,,they won't leave me
alone,,,thank-you peggy |
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12:26:07 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Thanks for the love, DODAD |
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12:27:12 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
You have to establish your own authority as a parent
right now. My own mother was very skeptical and
challenging about my decisions. Even when I didn't tell
her, she would figure out what I was going to do next
---- like, oh my goddess --- homeschooling. |
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12:27:47 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Now, 25 years later she stops young mothers in Walmart
and recommends homeschooling to them. In the end, the
critics will see the good results of your parenting but
they have a right as relatives to be concerned. |
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12:28:24 |
skimonami3 |
I'm done....I have an allie in my chiropractor,,,and
they seem to partially respect what she says,,yes,,I
respect thier concern,,,but the threats if anything
happens to her' etc" |
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12:29:10 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
It's called keeping your own counsel. It's important
that you keep your own counsel. Their threats are
inappropriate. They do not have to right to do that or
to intimidate you. Your children do not belong to them
and only you and your family will live with the results
of your decisions. |
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12:30:09 |
skimonami3 |
I am grateful to you,,,thanx peggy.... |
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12:31:26 |
DODAD |
Hi TIna...sorry for my faux pas...I am an old (gray) Dad
but a babe in the chat room woods...how do I propose a
question to Peggy? |
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12:31:29 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Maybe you could say something like, I appreciate your
concerns, but I have to make my own decisions as a
parent and will take your concerns into account. Please
give me the benefit of the doubt and allow me to make my
own decisions." |
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12:31:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
don't forget to say next question" when you are done.
:)" |
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12:31:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol DODAD... here's the info you need: Welcome to this
week's Mothering Sponsored chat! This is a moderated
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12:31:55 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I'm an old gray mom. Fire away DODAD when you figure it
out. |
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12:32:01 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
maemery is up next |
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12:32:11 |
maemery |
I am 38 weeks pregnant and my GB Strep test came back
positive...I do not want antibiotics given to me during
labor, but my midwife says I have no choice, as I am
giving birth in a hospital. I am trying to persuade her
to let me take the test again in two |
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12:32:29 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
I'll add you to the que, DODAD and call you when it's
your turn :) |
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12:32:49 |
maemery |
weeks...I am looking for some ways to get rid of the
bacteria in my system during the next few weeks if it is
possible |
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12:33:48 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
We have a great article that addresses this on the
website. Type in group b strep into the search engine.
There is a sidebar on herbal treatments and one on
probiotic diet to get rid of the bacteria. |
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12:33:53 |
maemery |
and could change the test results...from what I've read,
this test is wholly unreliable |
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12:34:45 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I agree that the test is unreliable and the treatment
overly cautious. From what I understand you make your
own decision here and be on safe ground. |
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12:34:47 |
maemery |
Thanks, I'll try that...do you know of successes with
it? |
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12:35:19 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Yes, I do know of many successes. We could get you in
touch with the author. Kimber is going to put that up
here next. |
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12:35:32 |
maemery |
thanx peggy! |
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12:36:08 |
kimber |
The bio note on the author of the article conveys her
success |
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12:36:30 |
kimber |
I tried to paste it in but that did not work |
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12:36:48 |
maemery |
can I contact her directly? |
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12:37:14 |
kimber |
email me at kimbers@mothering.com for author contact
info, maemery |
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12:37:16 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
The article was in #121, Nov/Dec 2003. Email
kimbers@mothering.com for the author |
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12:37:23 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
author's email. |
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12:37:40 |
maemery |
thank you |
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12:37:56 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Good luck to you maemery. I wish you success. Fight the
fear. |
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12:38:04 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
heids70 is up next |
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12:38:59 |
heids70 |
hi! can u come back 2 me in a little while, i am
nursing my 2 month old at the moment. ps i am so
nervous! peggy is my HERO!!! |
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12:39:08 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
lol sure no problem |
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12:39:15 |
heids70 |
THANKS... |
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12:39:16 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
sweatpea you're up then :) |
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12:39:20 |
sweetpea |
I enjoyed your column about defining" natural family
living and am wondering if you will do an update and let
us know how others define natural family living (from
responses to your questions at the end of the column)." |
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12:39:23 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
You are so dear. You are MY hero! |
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12:39:57 |
ruthla |
time for me to get ds- bye ladies |
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12:41:17 |
identitycrisismama |
? |
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12:41:40 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
That issue with the natural family living editorial is
the May/June issue and just out now and we're getting
responses so I don't have too many yet. I really did not
try to do a totally complete definition here, but wanted
to counter the bad press that attachment parenting was
getting from Judith Warner's book The Perfect Madness.
Also, I wanted to communicate it in a simple,
non-threatening way for parents new to it. So, if I left
out anything important, I'm sorry but just did not want
to make a new dogma. |
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12:42:27 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I will think about doing an update and will certainly
have a lively discussion in Your Letters in the mag. |
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12:42:32 |
sweetpea |
Will be interested in any responses printed in the next
issue then! |
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12:42:49 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
What would you have added, Sweetpea? |
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12:43:13 |
sweetpea |
elimination communication! |
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12:44:07 |
sweetpea |
The bond my husband and I share with our daughter has
been enhanced so much by listening to and respecting her
communications in this area! |
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12:44:08 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I have no personal experience with this so it's
difficult for me to evaluate from a personal point of
view. |
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12:45:16 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Next question |
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12:45:37 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
laurawv is up next |
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12:45:51 |
laurawv |
Thank you so much for Mothering magazine... it's such an
important link for me to the attachment parenting world,
when I'm surrounded by mainstream parenters. I'm a new
mom (my son is 11.5 weeks old), and had to go back to
work when he was 8 weeks. |
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12:46:33 |
laurawv |
I'm just wondering if you have any insight as to how I
can stay sane while having to be away from him for 40
hours a week. It's still so hard, and this is the 4th
week... I'm all about attachment parenting, but it forms
such a strong bond between us, which |
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12:46:38 |
laurawv |
is difficult when we have to be apart. |
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12:48:49 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I sympathize wih you so much, Laura. I feel that ache of
separation. Find other mothers in your situation, at
least one who has been there, done that. Read Karen
Pryor's book Breastfeeding and Working or something like
that. Go to La Leche League meetings for working moms.
Nurse a lot at night. Go the MDC boards and discuss (if
you have time!!) Be with your baby as much as possible
when you're not working. Wear your baby. Look for work
from home. |
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12:49:27 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
No, It's Gale Pryor, Karen's daughter, who wrote the
book. |
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12:50:13 |
laurawv |
I'm doing all the right stuff at home... being with him
every minute. I'm reading Nursing Mother Working Mother,
and it's great... it's just sometimes it seems so wrong
to be a working mother. Thank you, Peggy. ...I hope that
my question |
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12:50:21 |
laurawv |
sounded like an actual question, not just whining. :) |
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12:53:04 |
laurawv |
You're right, it would be great to have another mom
who's done this to talk to... i'll try to find a group.
Thank you. Thanks for Mothering... it's outstanding.
--over and out. |
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12:53:23 |
Webmama_Tina |
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/APmomsconnect might find
ya someone |
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12:53:31 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
ikeessyou is up next |
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12:53:34 |
ikeessyou |
Peggy - I'm pregnant again after 16 years! I picked up
Mothering and when I saw your picture, I felt like I was
seeing a very dear old friend again! Interestingly
enough, it was an older piece of yours that I remembered
from long ago |
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12:53:34 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I don't know what to say without making you feel worse.
I think it is important to be with your babies in the
early years. If we simply cannot do this, then we have
to deal and cope with the feelings. If there are
options, then we must look into them. If you have
working because you have to that is one thing. If you
are working because you think you should or because of
pressure from your spouse or others that is another
thing. Only you can sort that out and the ache you feel
missing your baby, the gut pull from the invisible
umbilical cord is real and for a reason. But, only you
can figure out what your real choices are. You could
also read some old books, Mothers at Home and Sequencing
by Cardoza (I'm forgetting the spelling). Imagine other
options. |
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12:53:59 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
16 years, wow. |
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12:54:10 |
ikeessyou |
and it brought back so many memories. Being pregnant in
my 40's is a lot different from 20's! |
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12:55:22 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I'll bet. Do you feel more tired? More relaxed about
things? Are you being terrified by high risk" talk or
are you cool with that?" |
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12:55:30 |
ikeessyou |
I just wanted you to know how much you and Mothering
have meant to me over the years, not just with babies,
but with big" kids as well - especially teenagers!
People are amazed that such a "liberal" mom can have
such "good" kids!" |
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12:57:03 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Isn't it funny what liberal means today. There's a
difference between being open-minded and responsive with
our kids and being permissive. We can still be the ones
in charge while acknowledging and meeting our children's
legitimate needs. I'm glad Mothering has helped you and
I wish you the best with your new one. I bet the teens
will be a great help! |
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12:57:17 |
ikeessyou |
It's hard not to be freaked out because of my advanced
maternal age" and all the medical intervention that is
recommended...but, I've opted" |
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12:59:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
holy cow, time flew...the time is nearly up...peggy do
you need to jam right at the end or do you have time to
answer a little more questions? |
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12:59:10 |
ikeessyou |
out of most everything with my doctor's approval. What
has been most shocking is that in my practice, I stand
out because I'm not asking for an epidural! AND, I don't
know what" my baby is...people ask and I just tell them
that it's a human being, that's" |
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12:59:13 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
When we did an article years ago on birth after 40, we
discovered that the research, at least at that time and
I suspect now, did not factor out lifestyle choices. So
all women were lumped together. It is safe to assume
that a woman in her forties with a healthy lifestyle
would differ in her risk factors from one with an
unhealthy lifestyle. It has been my experience that
lifestyle not age is the factor in many health issues,
even aging. |
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12:59:20 |
ikeessyou |
what we know! THANKS! Bye! |
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12:59:44 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
We can go 15 or 20 minutes longer if you all would like. |
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12:59:46 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
ilovezoeystar is up next and there's three more on the
que after her |
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12:59:57 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok how many more questions in the que celtic? |
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13:00:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh you already answered me |
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13:00:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
LOL |
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13:00:05 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
:) |
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13:00:07 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
beat ya |
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13:00:09 |
Webmama_Tina |
yup |
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13:00:13 |
exuberantdaffodil |
New to the conept of AP yet knowing in my heart this is
how I want to mother my baby, I am just now facing my
one year old testing me, testing his limitations and how
I respond to them. He is a screamer and has a strong,
wonderful personality - |
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13:00:13 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Thanks for your courage and for being a pioneer,
ikeesyou. |
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13:00:18 |
ilovezoeystar |
Oh no! it won't copy and paste, well let me get it
together! |
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13:00:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
Friendly Reminder: Please do not post unless it is your
turn to ask a question. If you have a question, please
post a single ?" and you'll be added to the queue. Have
your question ready when your name is called. THANKYOU!
:)" |
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13:00:48 |
ilovezoeystar |
Well first i received 2 free issues as a gift from a
friend of minue months ago |
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13:00:49 |
ikeessyou |
XXXXXXXOOOOOO, to you and Mothering! |
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13:01:14 |
ilovezoeystar |
one of the issues talked about woorking with a child, i
read that articale and went around and found a job that
sllows me to bring my 8 month old daugheter, zoey star
to work with me |
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13:01:26 |
ilovezoeystar |
i just wanted to tell you thank you for bringing to my
attention that things like that can happen |
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13:01:28 |
ilovezoeystar |
and secondly... |
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13:02:22 |
ilovezoeystar |
how can i approach a friend that practices the CIO
method for bedtime? where is a good place to find good
evidence...her dr told her that cio would help her baby
build up good vocal skills...would make him more social |
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13:02:41 |
Gemini |
oh dear |
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13:03:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
*) |
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13:03:10 |
ilovezoeystar |
I go to her house and 8:30 hits and she takes her happy
babbling baby and puts him in his crib...he cries for
sometimes 30-45 minutes |
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13:03:45 |
heids70 |
:crying |
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13:03:45 |
ilovezoeystar |
it kills me, and most of the time I leave...she says oh
its not killing him Tamara, hes just tired, needs to cry
himself to sleep"...but I can't help but to want to say
something, I just don't know what to say..." |
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13:04:02 |
ilovezoeystar |
any advice? |
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13:04:20 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
First, exuberantdaffodil, don't project motives on your
baby that are adult motives. Your baby does not test you
at one year of life. He is just and only trying to meet
his legitimate needs. His wants and needs are the same
in the first few years of life. Try to figure out what
he needs. Try to figure out what good reason he has for
his behavior. He cannot talk too much yet so he may be
frustrated trying to communcate them. Be like a
detective, keep a journal if you need to to figure out
what he needs. I don't know enough about the situation
to comment on the screaming, but try anticipating his
needs sooner, nursing him sooner, wearing him and see
what happens. |
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13:04:27 |
MOD_Angie |
*yeowch* |
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13:05:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html |
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13:05:43 |
ilovezoeystar |
i'm confused? |
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13:05:59 |
MOD_CelticAngel |
Sorry ilovezoeystar I think we got out of turn |
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13:06:15 |
ilovezoeystar |
oh, ok |
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13:06:19 |
ilovezoeystar |
sorry |
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13:06:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
sorry ilovezoeystar ...i think she's answering
exuberantdaffodil ...but you'll get your turn |
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13:06:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
you were next, but hang tight. :) |
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13:06:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
that harvard link is for you though ilovezoeystar |
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13:06:58 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Even Ferber who invented" crying it out for a new
generation recanted his opinion in The New Yorker a few
years ago. No way about it, crying it out is cruel. I
have written a few editorials on it that I could direct
you too. Do you have to go to her house in the evenings.
I would be unbearble. Under what other circumstances
would we be so unmoved by the suffering of a loved one.
Crying it out is about having a parent dominated home.
In a healthy family, the needs of ALL family members are
considered. Domination is not cool." |
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13:07:44 |
ilovezoeystar |
Thank you |
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13:08:04 |
kshelver |
? |
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13:10:38 |
DODAD |
Hi Peggy, ...my question is how do we get the eyes and
ears of the policy makers at a national level to bring
sanity back to birth, nutrition, parenting and a
wholesome and holistic western world...your sage advice
Peggy the Divine Distaff Diva?...how do w |
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13:10:55 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I don't know what to say to others. It depends on the
friendship. Does she need support to hear the truth or
does she want to believe her doctor. You could ask her
what she needs, if she needs more information. |
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13:12:09 |
ilovezoeystar |
thats a great idea |
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13:12:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
At this time, the queue is full. Questions already in
line will be asked, but we cannot take anymore today.
Sorry for the inconvenience. |
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13:12:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
Upcoming chatters: heids70 identitycrisismama
exuberantdaffodil kshelver |
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13:12:57 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Oh, my DODAD, I wish I knew. Storm the place?? Have a
nurse-in for sanity. I think we have to wait out this
last stand of tyranny, put in place a new society in our
own homes, with our own children, in our own
communities, elect leaders at the local level who are
honest, work for campaign reform to get the money out of
politics, tell the truth about what we see, imagine a
better world and keep optimistic and hopeful. |
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13:13:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
DODAD currently has the floor with peggy. :) |
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13:13:22 |
Gemini |
Here here.... |
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13:13:26 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Do you want to dance, DODAD? |
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13:13:36 |
DODAD |
Yes...but not the tango |
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13:13:40 |
Webmama_Tina |
ROFL |
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13:13:43 |
Gemini |
lol. |
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13:13:43 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Right on. |
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13:14:16 |
DODAD |
This has become my passion but I need help to hone my
arrows so they hit the target...any suggestions? |
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13:15:07 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Be specific. Choose one issue to focus on with a
specific action plan. We've talked ourselves silly. Get
on a board or a council, run for office yourself. Get a
platform. |
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13:15:39 |
DODAD |
When we re out done by Korea in percentage of C-sections
and are seen as the nation to follow....how do we lead
from the top? |
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13:16:49 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
We don't lead from the top. We move forward by going
deeper. Go into the issue, write letters to the editor,
make them personal not theoretical so people can relate.
Start with your local community. Do you have a birth
network there? Start a Friends of Midwives group. |
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13:18:19 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Kick down the despair. We don't have time for that. We
are the leaders we've been waiting for. Stop being
discouraged about it, and start fighting for what your
believe in. Don't be immobilized by despair. There's
always more to do to save the world. Just begin with
something you can handle. |
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13:18:58 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
And, have fun doing it. That's what Molly Ivins says.
Have fun while you're talking the truth. |
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13:19:24 |
DODAD |
Is there a data base of policy advisiors that we can do
a letter writing campaign to...I am doing that here in
Canada...but want to start hitting harder more directly
at those who make the decsions to spend 5 billion on
daycares but who won't allow stay a |
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13:19:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
do you have time for 3 more questions peggy or shall we
wrap it up? |
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13:19:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
this is who i still have in line: heids70
identitycrisismama kshelver |
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13:19:46 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Three more questions is fine. |
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13:20:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
(took out exuberantdaffodil since her question was
already answered) |
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13:20:05 |
DODAD |
Thanks ...Peggy I applaud your hope and foresight.... |
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13:20:07 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok great |
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13:20:40 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
DODAD, I don't know. You could call or email Gary Ruskin
at Commercial Alert. He knows how to find the movers and
shakers in the US, but don't know about Canada. Could
you start with your local reps and ask them? |
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13:21:17 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Seems to me that optimism is a necessity these days. I
just try to remember that I'm not in prison, have plenty
of food and do not have The Plaugue. |
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13:21:36 |
Gemini |
heh |
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13:22:00 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
That would be The Plague. |
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13:22:09 |
DODAD |
When I wake up breathing I figure it is going to be a
good day. |
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13:22:21 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Oh, yes, and the right to vote. |
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13:22:27 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Right on! |
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13:23:59 |
identitycrisismama |
Hi, Peggy |
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13:24:09 |
identitycrisismama |
sorry... |
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13:24:18 |
heids70 |
oh, my turn? |
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13:24:29 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Hi crisis mama. |
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13:24:54 |
Webmama_Tina |
sorry got sidetracked... yes heids, your turn |
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13:25:14 |
Webmama_Tina |
Next up: heids70 identitycrisismama kshelver |
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13:26:17 |
heids70 |
ok. I'll be quick. I love to read and have all the
books recommended from the back of mothering magazine.
What I would like is your top 5 picks for books me to
read on my journey of raising my little girl. |
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13:26:36 |
Gemini |
excellent question! |
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13:27:18 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I put my top 25 list in our 25th anniversay issue. Here
goes a try at five. |
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13:27:31 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Natural Family Living |
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13:27:46 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Everyday Blessings |
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13:28:24 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
How to Talk so Kids can Listen and Listen so Kids can
talk |
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13:29:03 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Old classics: The Magic Years, The Conspiracy Against
Childhood and The Child Under Six |
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13:29:13 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Anything by Haim Ginott |
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13:29:33 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
And for safety, Smart Medicine and Taking Care of your
Child |
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13:30:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
hard to narrow down, huh? LOL |
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13:30:16 |
heids70 |
oh goodie! Thanks so much...by the way, is it possible
to get an 8X10 signed picture of YOU so that I can hang
it in our home? |
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13:30:20 |
Webmama_Tina |
next up: identitycrisismama kshelver |
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13:30:31 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Check out the list on page 77 in issue 107 and on page
360 of Natural Family Living, the recommended books for
the Afterword |
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13:31:55 |
identitycrisismama |
Hi, again...Could you offer suggestions about
prioritizing NFL issues? Like you said, I wnt to focus
on the really important issues. I'm bogged down in
details. Things like organic vs. locally grown
convetional...the list goes on. I struggle with many |
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13:32:31 |
identitycrisismama |
often conflicting choices regarding NFL nad it would
really help me ot know how to focus my efforts...thanks |
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13:33:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
last up: kshelver (once identitycrisismama is done) |
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13:34:17 |
identitycrisismama |
oh, my question is done...(I'm new here :LOL) |
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13:34:22 |
Gemini |
lol |
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13:34:57 |
kshelver |
Hi Peggy. We co-sleep with our 4-month-old. He's up
every 1-2 hours. Friends who did cry-it-out say their
kids slept 10-12 hours at that age. They disapprove of
co-sleeping (and our parenting style). I disagree with
them, of course, but worry ... |
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13:35:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
wait, did peggy get to answer you yet though
identitycrisismama ? |
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13:35:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
sorry i'm just trying to move things along since we are
way over time and i know peggy has a busy schedule. :) |
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13:35:31 |
identitycrisismama |
no...: ) |
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13:35:34 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
First of all, it's not a religion or a dogma. It's a
point of view. The point of view to do things in as
natural state as possible. So you've already started by
just asking what is more natural. Look for what's
available in your community. Is there a farmer's market.
Local produce is great and cheaper. Start shopping at
natural food stores and compare prices. Start with live
foods, like eggs and dairy. Try to get those organice.
Get some veggies and may meat from local providers.
Green Guide has some lists of what foods are the most
sprayed. All that freaks me out though. Just start with
one thing that draws you and do your best. |
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13:35:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok there ya go |
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13:36:23 |
identitycrisismama |
Thank you, Hannah |
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13:37:33 |
kshelver |
sorry - here's the rest of my question. We worry he's
not getting quality sleep. Even my husband is starting
to question it. |
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13:38:08 |
kshelver |
Any advice for more successful co-sleeping? I want to be
a good parent :) |
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13:38:48 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
That is absolutely untrue and cruel to say that a 4
month old BREASTFED baby would sleep 10 to 12 hours a
night. Research shows that babies do not sleep through
the night until between 2 and 3 years when their immune
system and brain mature more. Breasted human infants
need to be fed every 2 to 3 hours because human
breastmilk is low in fat. It is nice when babies sleep a
stretch through the night and maybe at 4 months there is
some of that, but once their teeth come in and then when
they feel themselves having to urinate at 18 months,
they will be wakeful. Don't you think that if there were
really a way to get babies to sleep through the night,
that we would have ALL heard about it by now. |
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13:39:21 |
Gemini |
lol, |
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13:40:49 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
You don't get quality sleep as a new parent and you
survive. Big deal. My real advice: throw out the clock,
don't count the number of hours you slept of didn't
sleep. Don't complain about it all day long. Just get on
with living. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Adapt to your
baby. Trust your baby. Get a bigger bed. Have another
bed for lovemaking and going off by oneself when
necessary. Your baby needs you 24 hours a day. End of
story. |
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13:41:27 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
By the way, they do want their own beds and their own
rooms in time. I guarantee it. |
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13:41:49 |
kshelver |
Thanks -- I needed to hear this. I will follow my gut
... and keep reading Mothering Mag! |
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13:42:29 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
You are so welcome. Check out my editorial, The Truth
about Nightwaking as well as In Their Hands. |
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13:42:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok that's it then mamas... :) |
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13:42:49 |
kshelver |
Thanks! Will do. |
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13:42:49 |
VJ |
Thanks ~ have enjoyed you again :) |
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13:42:55 |
Gemini |
thank you Peggy! |
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13:42:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
thanks SO MUCH, yet again, peggy! |
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13:42:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
great as always! |
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13:42:59 |
willowsmom |
Thanks Peggy... |
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13:43:05 |
fleur |
thanks peggy |
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13:43:06 |
fleur |
:) |
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13:43:06 |
Webmama_Tina |
transcripts will be up on sunday |
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13:43:07 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Thank you all so much. I love you. You cheer me up. Keep
on trusting yourself as parents! |
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13:43:13 |
Webmama_Tina |
great advice peggy! |
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13:43:17 |
Gemini |
:) |
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13:43:17 |
identitycrisismama |
Thank you |
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13:43:20 |
ktabbas |
HAPPY THAT THIS WAS MY FIRST EVER CHAT |
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13:43:22 |
Nemmer |
Thanks Peggy! :) |
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13:43:30 |
identitycrisismama |
Mine too, Ktabbas |
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13:43:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
ktabbas join us every week for another mothering
magazine sponsored chat! |
|
13:43:42 |
Webmama_Tina |
and mommychats has other chats as well... |
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13:43:52 |
ktabbas |
i hope to! |
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13:43:56 |
Webmama_Tina |
for this week's chats, scroll down below this chat
window to see the purple this week's chats" box" |
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13:43:58 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
We'll do this on a regular basis. |
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13:44:00 |
Webmama_Tina |
(something new!) |
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13:44:06 |
Gemini |
I hope so, |
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13:44:09 |
Webmama_Tina |
and peggy are you planning on monthly peggy chats now? |
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13:44:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
check out the transcripts pages on mommychats for all
past chats...mommychats sponsored and mothering mag
sponsored |
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13:44:34 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
sure, whatever regularity works. |
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13:44:42 |
Webmama_Tina |
the link to the mothering mag sponsored chats are linked
on the main transcript page |
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13:44:44 |
VJ |
weekly! lol |
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13:44:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol vj |
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13:44:48 |
Gemini |
lol |
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13:44:56 |
identitycrisismama |
daily |
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13:45:00 |
Gemini |
lol |
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13:45:02 |
VJ |
lol |
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13:45:12 |
Webmama_Tina |
cool peggy, that's awesome! i think its great for
readers to have regular contact with you! |
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13:45:45 |
Gemini |
how about just a direct dial telephone number?? |
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13:45:46 |
Webmama_Tina |
Please join the Mommy Chats egroup at
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mommychats to receive
notices about upcoming chats and changes to Mommy Chats. |
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13:45:47 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I love it too. |
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13:45:49 |
Gemini |
just kidding |
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13:45:52 |
identitycrisismama |
:LOL |
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13:46:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
*joy* |
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13:46:23 |
Gemini |
oh my, that sounds isn't very joyful, |
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13:46:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol |
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13:46:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
its not? |
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13:46:37 |
Gemini |
heh |
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13:46:39 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
505-984-6293, but I never answer my phone. I need an
assistant! |
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13:46:47 |
VJ |
lol i bet |
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13:46:49 |
Gemini |
oh! I was kidding! lol |
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13:46:49 |
ktabbas |
ren and stimpy 'joy?" |
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13:46:59 |
identitycrisismama |
:LOL :LOL |
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13:47:21 |
steph |
Peggy, I will come be your assistant. ;) tnrsmom from
the boards |
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13:47:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
anyone that wants to stick around and learn more about
mommychats and the features of this chat room (which we
don't use all of during this chat...there's some fun
stuff to play around with when the crowds are smaller,
hehe)...please join me in the mommy lounge and i'll give
ya a little chatware 101 |
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13:47:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
:)] |
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13:47:46 |
VJ |
see ya |
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13:47:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
especially for those of you still new to chats :) |
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13:47:55 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Ok, steph, email me. peggyo@mothering.com |
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13:47:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
kinda neat to know what you're doing, lol |
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13:48:07 |
identitycrisismama |
I'll try to make it now... |
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13:48:15 |
Gemini |
lol |
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13:48:18 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
I'm going now to have lunch and face the madness. Love
you all. Till next time. |
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13:48:19 |
Webmama_Tina |
a how'd they do that"? for mommychats...LOL" |
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13:48:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
take care peggy |
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13:48:26 |
Gemini |
thanks Tina |
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13:48:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
and stay cool! |
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13:48:28 |
ilovezoeystar |
I'll be steph's assistant |
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13:48:36 |
Gemini |
bye Peggy, thnak you |
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13:48:45 |
Gemini |
thank |
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13:48:46 |
ilovezoeystar |
bbye Peggy, you rock! |
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13:48:46 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Good, I need you both! |
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13:48:55 |
Peggy_O_Mara |
Thanks, all. Bye. Bye. |
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13:48:58 |
identitycrisismama |
Yea, thanks again...H. |
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13:49:04 |
ktabbas |
blessings peggy |
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13:49:18 |
Gemini |
fun chat! |
