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12:05:21 |
Webmama_Tina |
Join Dr. Neustaedter for a chat on
Learning Styles and Children's
Development. Bring your questions
regarding child development, individual
learning styles, appropriate enrichment
of children's unique talents and
opportunities, managing the school
process, and positive approaches to
learning problems. |
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12:05:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
hold on net |
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12:05:39 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
i think I asked the wrong ? lol |
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12:05:46 |
Webmama_Tina |
dr did you want to add anything? |
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12:05:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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12:06:11 |
alynda |
? |
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12:06:19 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am also happy to include how attention
and learning interact. |
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12:06:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok, net do you have our first question? |
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12:07:10 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
i did but not the right topic lol |
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12:07:10 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Last time we talked about ADHD so these
two areas really synchronize. |
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12:07:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
do you have one on topic? |
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12:07:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters (after net): alynda |
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12:07:45 |
laurasb26 |
? |
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12:07:48 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
not at the moment |
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12:08:03 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol ok, alynda? |
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12:08:28 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I will try to get everyone's questions
addressed, then we can go back with more
detail if there is time and we need more
discussion. |
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12:08:56 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: alynda laurasb26 |
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12:09:07 |
laurasb26 |
Dr. Randall i was wondering about the
struggle that all mothers have between
decidying to stay home at taking them to
nursery. What are your thoguths |
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12:09:14 |
alynda |
my son is 15 months old, and plays with
toysfor only moments at a time, going
from one thing to another very
quickly...could he have an attention
problem, or is this normal for his age? |
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12:09:32 |
Webmama_Tina |
laura, its alynda's turn first |
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12:09:48 |
laurasb26 |
sorry, i misunderstood your message :) |
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12:09:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
dr, if you could address alynda's
question, and then we'll get to
laura's...help keep things on track. :) |
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12:09:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
no worries :) |
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12:09:59 |
Webmama_Tina |
it happens |
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12:10:26 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Normal babies at this age have a very
short attention span and they move from
one activity to another. |
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12:11:16 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Some parents experience that a new toy
lasts for about 90 seconds, especially
in really intelligent babies. They learn
about it, master it, then they are off
to something that attracts their
interest. |
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12:11:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Not to worry. Enjoy your energetic and
exploring baby. |
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12:11:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Attention problems are way, way
overstated. |
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12:12:01 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Babies do not have attention problems. |
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12:12:09 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that answer it? |
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12:12:24 |
alynda |
yes, thanks |
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12:12:29 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:12:42 |
Webmama_Tina |
laura, your turn now |
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12:12:50 |
laurasb26 |
ok, |
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12:13:08 |
laurasb26 |
sorry the question is above and i can't
copy it |
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12:13:15 |
RandallNeustaedter |
The daycare issue is huge. What age? |
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12:13:29 |
laurasb26 |
i just wanted to find out the learning
plus and minus from nurseries and
staying home |
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12:13:33 |
laurasb26 |
well now 1 |
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12:13:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
to copy/paste you have to click the copy
content button in the toolbar above
where you type |
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12:14:12 |
RandallNeustaedter |
OK a 1 year old does not need to learn
social skills, so there is no reason
that your baby cannot get everything she
needs at home with you. |
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12:14:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Gymboree type sessions are fun, but they
are not necessary. |
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12:14:39 |
laurasb26 |
yes, very social, goes to swimming and
other play groups. |
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12:14:52 |
RandallNeustaedter |
They may however give you some ideas. |
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12:15:01 |
laurasb26 |
so in terms of socializing no need. does
he not get too attached to mom? |
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12:15:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
playgroups are more for the moms at that
age, aren't they dr? |
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12:15:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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12:15:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I am just happy that you have the
freedom to stay home with your baby.
Other moms agonize over this issue of
leaving their babies to someone else's
care. |
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12:16:18 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Attachment to mom and dad is the goal of
attachment parenting folks. It makes for
secure, confident children. |
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12:16:51 |
RandallNeustaedter |
At 2 1/2 or at least 3 it is very
helpful for toddlers to have experience
with socializing. |
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12:16:59 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that answer it? |
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12:17:04 |
laurasb26 |
yes indeed, very fortunate to stay home.
thank you you confirmed my insights |
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12:17:13 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:17:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
i don't currently have anyone else in
queue...anyone have a question for the
doctor? |
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12:17:40 |
alynda |
? |
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12:17:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
we're talking child development and
learning styles today |
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12:17:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
go for it alynda |
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12:18:00 |
pyxiwulf |
? |
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12:18:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
pyxiwulf, you're after alynda |
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12:18:46 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Don't worry I can start expounding too
and bring up issues for everyone. |
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12:18:55 |
alynda |
regarding attachment..my 15 mo ds isn't
handling short separations well; he's
been ap'd by my husband and I since
birth, but I do work PT out of the home,
and he isn't doing well with it...clingy
and fussy. again, is it the age? my mom
thinks |
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12:19:18 |
alynda |
I ap'd him wrong", and made him 'too
attached'" |
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12:19:58 |
RandallNeustaedter |
There is no such thing as too attached
at this age. |
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12:20:12 |
net-or-ilovemy2ds |
? |
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12:20:38 |
laurasb26 |
? |
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12:20:40 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Babies at this age are just that.
Attached, not really ready for
separation even though it is necessary
at times. |
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12:21:17 |
RandallNeustaedter |
when babies and toddlers start
developing language skills they tend to
become wary and anxious of strangers |
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12:21:32 |
alynda |
would it make sense to curtail the time
I spend away from him, until he is
better able to handle it, or try to make
it as easy a spossible for him as he
adjusts to it? the P/T job doesn't pay
enough that I want to risk his
development on it |
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12:21:47 |
ourwiefamily |
? |
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12:21:48 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26 |
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12:21:49 |
willsmum |
? |
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12:22:24 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26
ourwiefamily willsmum |
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12:22:38 |
RandallNeustaedter |
This is usually due to their familiarity
with the parents' ways of interacting
with them and other styles of
interacting and language/facial
expression/body language are unfamiliar.
They develop into more security with it
as they gain experience. |
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12:23:24 |
RandallNeustaedter |
This will not impair his development.
The best scenario is for you and him to
spend time with the other caregiver
until he is more secure. |
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12:23:53 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Sooner or later he will become more able
to stay on his own, even if he still has
problems separating. |
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12:24:13 |
alynda |
thank you |
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12:24:27 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok pyxi, you're up |
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12:24:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
upcoming chatters: pyxiwulf
net-or-ilovemy2ds laurasb26
ourwiefamily willsmum |
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12:24:40 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Familiarity is usually the key. The
timeframe depends on his temperament and
how shy/withdrawing/introverted he is. |
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12:24:44 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Does that help? |
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12:25:14 |
RandallNeustaedter |
next |
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12:26:07 |
pyxiwulf |
., what can we do to |
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12:26:45 |
pyxiwulf |
my 65 yrd old has never practiced her
skills, this has made th traditional
school setting difficult, what can we do
to accomodate her? |
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12:26:52 |
pyxiwulf |
make that 5 yr old |
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12:27:30 |
Webmama_Tina |
social skills you mean? |
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12:27:33 |
RandallNeustaedter |
By skills I assume you mean alphabet and
numbers? |
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12:27:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh, or that, lol |
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12:27:56 |
pyxiwulf |
all types, motor and academic |
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12:28:45 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Children practice motor skills on their
own. If she is having gross motor skill
problems at this age, then that is truly
a problem. |
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12:29:03 |
RandallNeustaedter |
If you mean she doesn't draw accurately,
then that is not a problem at this age. |
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12:29:25 |
Webmama_Tina |
change to queue--upcoming chatters:
ourwiefamily, laurasb26,
net-or-ilovemy2ds, willsmum |
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12:29:56 |
RandallNeustaedter |
I personally feel that children are
hurried" in our culture. Of course the
Waldorf philosophy does not introduce
academics or worksheets at this age." |
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12:30:08 |
pyxiwulf |
I told ourwiefamily she could jump me, I
need to reword my ? |
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12:30:28 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh ok, i thought she was swapping w/net |
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12:30:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok go for it karla |
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12:30:43 |
ourwiefamily |
We just had a new baby (6wo). My 21mo
dd is feeling displaced, I think. She
alternates between loving on him and
attacking him. I'm giving her special
focussed times during the day and trying
to emphasize the times she is positive
w/ baby. |
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12:30:55 |
ourwiefamily |
but how should I react right after she
does something mean to baby? |
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12:31:06 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Most children catch up in K and beyond.
The teacher should be able to assess
whether there is a problem. |
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12:31:17 |
RandallNeustaedter |
Are we done with the 5 year old issue? |
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12:31:39 |
laurasb26 |
Webmama_Tina sorry tina, i have to feed
my boy. if i make it later i will ask
the question. thank you. |
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12:31:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think she wanted to reword it..ourwie
has to leave soon so asked to jump ahead |
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12:32:02 |
mayjo |
? |
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12:32:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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12:32:16 |
RandallNeustaedter |
OK a 2 year old is likely to feel
jealous. That is normal. |
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12:32:34 |
ourwiefamily |
yes. I'm just not sure how to react
when she bites him or scratches |
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