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19:06:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok today's guest speaker is sarah buckley... |
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19:06:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
soooo glad to have you sarah! |
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19:06:53 |
Webmama_Tina |
how is it down under? |
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19:06:56 |
Webmama_Tina |
;) |
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19:07:02 |
sarahjbuckley |
Thnaks Tina, I’m a family physician, currently
full-time mama to my four children, (ages 14, 11, 9 and
5, all born at home) and a writer on pregnancy, birth
and parenting. My most recent article is ‘The Amazing
Placenta’ in July-Aug Mothering, and I’m finishing my
book, Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering: The Best Articles
by Sarah J Buckley MD on Gentle Choices in Pregnancy,
Birth and Parenting, due for release in October- see my
website www.sarahjbuckley.com for more (also a family
photo on my bio page!) Oh, and I’m a slow typist! |
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19:07:14 |
Webmama_Tina |
go ahead and introduce yourself, sarah, and tell us a
little about your background and expertise. :) oh you
beat me, lol |
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19:07:35 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: Michele |
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19:07:51 |
sarahjbuckley |
Ok, here is my topicsm you can ask any of these! |
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19:07:51 |
teagreenribbons |
Jessica as well |
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19:07:55 |
sarahjbuckley |
Topics which Sarah has researched and written about
include ecstatic birth; epidurals and other drugs in
labour, ultrasound and prenatal diagnosis; third stage
of labour and lotus birth; extended breastfeeding;
co-sleeping; elimination communication (raising babies
without diapers/nappies); healing power of birth; yoga
and motherhood; fertility awareness and gentle
discipline. |
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19:08:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
if you posted a question mark during the time that i was
booted from the chat...so sorry...just post it again...i
only have michele so far |
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19:08:28 |
Michele |
May I ask Sarah my ? |
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19:08:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
okey dokey michele, you're up! |
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19:08:37 |
Michele |
ok thanks |
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19:08:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
yup go for it. :) |
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19:08:56 |
Webmama_Tina |
If you have a question, please post a single ?" and
you'll be added to the queue. Have your question ready
when your name is called. THANKYOU! :)" |
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19:09:01 |
teagreenribbons |
Don't know to phase my question to Sarah |
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19:09:09 |
Michele |
Sarah.....I was wondering how I can go about weaning my
27 month old son? |
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19:09:39 |
Webmama_Tina |
teagreenribbons when its your turn you can ask her for
some help. :) |
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19:09:40 |
sarahjbuckley |
OK, well can you tell me a bit more, are you ready in
some way, is he ready in some way? |
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19:09:42 |
mairead |
? |
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19:09:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: Michele mairead |
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19:10:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
and i'll add you too teagreenribbons |
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19:10:20 |
Michele |
well, it has gotten to the point where he is really rude
and pushy about nursing. If I say no he has a fit and
starts tearing at my shirt and trying to nurse anyway. |
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19:10:31 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: Michele, mairead, teagreenribbons |
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19:10:44 |
Michele |
He is still wants to nurse all the time and I am getting
frustrated |
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19:11:04 |
Michele |
he would rather nurse than eat food |
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19:11:47 |
sarahjbuckley |
Ok, its ounds liek you need some ground rules here! I
found btw 2 and 3 that it became possible to negotaiet
around ahwet was Ok for me, and begin to have specific
times and/or situations where I will say yes, eg nigth
time, rest time, in bed- do you think this would work
with your son? Is he verbal anough to understand ? |
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19:12:05 |
sarahjbuckley |
oops, sorry for the typos! |
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19:12:24 |
TurboClaudia |
? |
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19:12:34 |
Michele |
He is verbal enough, but a stubborn little bugger...if I
say we have to wait until night night he has a fit and
starts clawing at my shirt and crying etc |
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19:12:37 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: Michele, mairead, teagreenribbons,
TurboClaudia |
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19:13:06 |
Michele |
I just wonder when will he want to stop....I thought
babies self weaned..lol |
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19:13:40 |
sarahjbuckley |
I also have found teh work of Aletha Solter sueful
www.awareparenting.com for those areas where there is
conflict, he may be needing some opportunities to
experience your 'no' and to voice his protest. Aletha's
book Tears and tantrums migth be very useful to you |
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19:14:17 |
Michele |
ok....but I hate to say this I really don't have time to
read...I have 4 kids at home and no mommy time |
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19:14:46 |
sarahjbuckley |
Well, some do deciode themselves, but it's interesting ,
the work of Kathleen Dettwyler suggests that the natural
age of weaning in humans is 4 to 6 years, so there is
still a need for many children at 2 or 3. |
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19:15:07 |
sarahjbuckley |
What happened with your others, Michelle, in terms of
weaning? |
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19:15:08 |
Michele |
so I can't just cut him off cold turkey, huh? |
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19:15:35 |
Michele |
Ty is the only one that I nursed. :( |
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19:16:11 |
sarahjbuckley |
We,, it's a very strong reaction to your situation, it
coudl be quite traumantic for him, it sounds like you
could do with some time out yourself. Great that you
have nursed him so far too! |
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19:16:32 |
Michele |
thanks ...I am so glad I stuck with it |
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19:17:37 |
sarahjbuckley |
I suggest that you decide yourself what is right for
you- do you want to continue to nurse, if you can do it
in a easier way, and let him know,. At this age, I began
to tell my children Baboo in the moring, baboo at rest
time, baboo at sleep time, and they understood, but you
will probbaly have tpo deal with some tantrums however
you do it." |
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19:18:15 |
Michele |
Thank you...that is what I have started to do...telling
him for night night and naps. I appreicate your help.
:) |
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19:19:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: mairead, teagreenribbons,
TurboClaudia |
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19:19:18 |
mairead |
hi sarah and all i have 6 and half mos twins around 18
lbs have not started solids yet exclusive breast milk
would like to continue w breastmilk only how long can i
do that for and am taking prenatal supplements is that
enough |
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19:19:26 |
sarahjbuckley |
Great instincts Michelle. There is a great website,
mothering your nursing toddler, it's got some excellent
idaes, resources, I think its myntoddler.org or search
teh title |
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19:19:58 |
Michele |
ok thanks |
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19:20:06 |
mairead |
woops sorry thought that was my turn call |
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19:20:37 |
sarahjbuckley |
If your babies are growing well, and happy, there is no
need to introduce solids. I always recomend looking at
the babies, not the cahrts or calendars, and also they
will let you know , begin to grab food off your plate
when they need it |
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19:20:46 |
TurboClaudia |
website is www.myntoddler.com |
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19:20:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
no worries...sometimes there are parting
thoughts...woops, my bad |
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19:20:47 |
Webmama_Tina |
:) |
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19:21:36 |
maemery |
? |
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19:21:42 |
sarahjbuckley |
Thanks Clauidia, I fogot to address that answer to
Mairead, and also say congarts on your twins- big work
but fun too, I imagine |
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19:22:09 |
mairead |
thanks sarah and should i be taking any xtra supplements
its awesome and alot of work thanks |
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19:22:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
chatters in queue: teagreenribbons, TurboClaudia,
maemery |
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19:22:54 |
sarahjbuckley |
Another comment about slids and babies, sometimes it is
said that you need to start iron-rich foods because they
run out of iron stores by 6 montsh, but an exclusively
braestfed babay actuall has a better iron intake. |
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19:23:04 |
teagreenribbons |
I'm getting new insurance, drop my last OB/GYN because
she really didn't look at my notes last time, when I
wanted to go on birth control again |
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19:23:15 |
teagreenribbons |
Last time* |
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19:23:44 |
sarahjbuckley |
I think suplements are probbaly good, I personally
favout wholefoods like spiruline, gree barley powder,
kelp, there are soem idaes about this in my expert panel
answer on prenatal nutrition |
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19:23:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: teagreenribbons...chatters in queue:
TurboClaudia, maemery |
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19:23:59 |
teagreenribbons |
For now I have a appointment with a new OB/GYN or should
have I went with a Family physician |
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19:24:32 |
sarahjbuckley |
Ok, next question |
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19:25:01 |
Webmama_Tina |
teagreenribbons just asked a question, sarah...do you
need me to repost it for you? :) |
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19:25:02 |
sarahjbuckley |
Sorry, Jessicam you are asking em about family physician
vs obgyn care ? |
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19:25:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
lol nevermind |
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19:25:15 |
teagreenribbons |
Couple of questions |
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19:25:34 |
teagreenribbons |
Yeah, and also told you about my last OB/GYN as well |
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19:25:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: teagreenribbons...chatters in queue:
TurboClaudia, maemery |
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19:26:02 |
Webmama_Tina |
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19:26:05 |
teagreenribbons |
Have already appointment with my new OB/GYN |
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19:26:23 |
teagreenribbons |
So should I keep it |
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19:26:55 |
lifetish |
? |
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19:27:06 |
sarahjbuckley |
Ok, well if you want a low-tech birth, it's best to
choose the lowest-tech carer as well, family physician
tend to have lower rates of intervention, I think it's a
good idea. But alot of it is up to teh individual, how
you get on with them ideally ask their other clients how
they were cared for in labour, sometimes they seem good
at appointments then ignore a birth plane etc in
labour.. |
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19:27:08 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: teagreenribbons...chatters in queue:
TurboClaudia, maemery, lifetish |
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19:27:27 |
teagreenribbons |
I'm not pregnant or don't to be in the near future |
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19:28:02 |
sarahjbuckley |
I agree that your carer nbeeds to pay attention to you.
Have you considered a midwife? It's the most
personalised care you can get :) |
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19:28:25 |
teagreenribbons |
Also have a history of depression and anxiety which my
OB/GYN really didn't look at and just gived me Birth
Control |
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19:29:08 |
teagreenribbons |
Yeah, but the midwifes closest to me are in my old
OB/GYNs office |
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19:29:36 |
Webmama_Tina |
Welcome to this week's Mothering Sponsored chat! This is
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19:29:39 |
sarahjbuckley |
Sounds liek you have done the right thing looking for
another carer. A family physicain would be able to care
for all those other sides as well, more integrated,
rather than just your pregnnacy. |
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19:30:01 |
teagreenribbons |
I'm in the middle of doctor/midwife/hospital/alternative
birth center at the hospital/birth center/home |
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19:30:49 |
teagreenribbons |
The practice choosed was on the whole Womens Health,
internist and OB/GYN |
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19:31:13 |
teagreenribbons |
Volunteer at the local hospital by me in their Maternity
Unit, I do clerical work |
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19:31:42 |
teagreenribbons |
But still get to go into L & D and M & B |
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19:32:13 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: teagreenribbons...chatters in queue:
TurboClaudia, maemery, lifetish |
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19:32:24 |
sarahjbuckley |
Hmm... tricky call here Jessica, sometimes you have to
trust your gut in choosing your carers. If it all goes
well,I guess you would stick with the midwife? Sound
slioke you are well placed to know the carers. You
knowk, when I really want to know more, I ask the staff
that the carers work with, eg phone the birth centre and
ask them if they can (covertly) point me towards the
best carer |
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19:32:31 |
teagreenribbons |
Sarah are you answering my questions |
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19:32:50 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think she was typing, teagreenribbons :) |
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19:32:55 |
teagreenribbons |
K |
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19:33:15 |
sarahjbuckley |
Yes, sorry, i thought you were Jessica? |
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19:33:32 |
teagreenribbons |
Yup, teagreenribbons is Jessica |
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19:33:51 |
sarahjbuckley |
Have I answered your question ? |
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19:34:14 |
teagreenribbons |
Some of it, you need answer the last part of it |
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19:34:23 |
teagreenribbons |
As I rember |
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19:34:26 |
Webmama_Tina |
teagreenribbons if you have more questions you can get
in line again...as many times as we have time for. :) |
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19:34:43 |
Webmama_Tina |
just post another question mark to get in line to ask
another question. :) |
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19:34:49 |
teagreenribbons |
Already posted them |
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19:34:54 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok |
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19:35:26 |
sarahjbuckley |
Can you repeat what I haven't answered please? |
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19:35:42 |
teagreenribbons |
No, the midwifes in my area are way out of the way for
me |
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19:36:11 |
teagreenribbons |
And birth center is also far way from me |
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19:37:06 |
sarahjbuckley |
Ok, so your choices are family physician or ob/gyn, I'd
be asking around to find the best carer, decide what you
want and go in with a list of questions. It's good to
think about this before you get pregnant too! |
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19:37:14 |
teagreenribbons |
Sorry for taking so much time with my questions |
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19:37:32 |
sarahjbuckley |
No problem, wishing you well with your next
pregnancy!ext question please |
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19:37:39 |
teagreenribbons |
Thanx |
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19:37:58 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: TurboClaudia ...chatters in queue:
maemery, lifetish |
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19:37:59 |
teagreenribbons |
Never been pregnant before |
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