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20:56:54 |
sarahjbuckley |
Hello everyone, it's great to be here
again, I hope I have all the technical
stuff right, and please excuse my typos!
As my intro said, I'm a family physician
currently full time writer and mother to
my 4 children, ages 6 to 16, living in
Brisbane Australia |
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20:57:07 |
SandraMort |
Hello again! |
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20:57:15 |
sarahjbuckley |
where it's 12 noon in late summer. My
book Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering has
lots of topics that I can cover, check
the contents list here. http://www.sarahjbuckley.com/pdf/gentle-birth-gentle-mothering-toc.pdf |
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20:58:10 |
sarahjbuckley |
and in my book http://www.sarahjbuckley.com/html/gentle-birth-gentle-mothering.htm |
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21:04:34 |
Webmama_Tina |
okey dokey...here's the blurb on sarah
again....for those that missed it.... |
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21:04:41 |
Webmama_Tina |
Sarah J Buckley is a trained GP (family
physician), with qualifications in
GP-obstetrics and family planning and an
expert panel member of Mothering's Ask
the Expert. Since 1997, Sarah has been
sharing her unique perspective through
writing and lecturing, in which she
critiques current practices in
pregnancy, birth and parenting from a
scientific as well as a personal
viewpoint. Her articles have been
published in midwifery and parenting
magazines internationally, including
Mothering magazine, Midwifery Today,
MIDIRS, and the Journal of Prenatal and
Perinatal Psychology and Health. Topics
which Sarah has researched and written
about include ecstatic birth; epidurals
and other drugs in labour, ultrasound
and prenatal diagnosis; third stage of
labour and lotus birth; extended
breastfeeding; co-sleeping; elimination
communication (raising babies without
nappies); healing power of birth; yoga
and motherhood: fertility awareness and
gentle discipline. Sarah encourages us
all to listen to our hearts and our
intuition, and to claim our rightful
role as the real experts in pregnancy,
birth and mothering. For more of Sarah's
writing, and her book Gentle Birth,
Gentle Mothering: The wisdom and science
of gentle choices in pregnancy, birth,
and parenting, see www.sarahjbuckley.com. |
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21:04:59 |
sarahjbuckley |
Hello everyone, it's great to be here
again, I hope I have all the technical
stuff right, and please excuse my
typos! |
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21:05:15 |
Webmama_Tina |
you're doing great sarah! |
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21:05:16 |
sarahjbuckley |
Basically, you can ask me most things in
pregnancy, birth and parenting, but I
can't give you long or very personalized
answers in this forum |
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21:05:27 |
sarahjbuckley |
Topics that I enjoy chatting about
include natural birth, breech birth,
lotus birth, cord clamping and cord
blood banking , co-sleeping, attachment
parenting, raising babies without
diapers (!), gentle discipline. |
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21:05:44 |
sarahjbuckley |
You can also check out my answers to
questions on the Mothering Experts forum
here
http://www.mothering.com/sections/experts/buckley-archive.html
and more of my articles here
http://www.sarahjbuckley.com/articles/articles.htm |
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21:05:55 |
sarahjbuckley |
and in my book
http://www.sarahjbuckley.com/html/gentle-birth-gentle-mothering.htm |
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21:06:13 |
sarahjbuckley |
My book Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering
has lots of topics that I can cover,
check the contents list here.
http://www.sarahjbuckley.com/pdf/gentle-birth-gentle-mothering-toc.pdf |
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21:07:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok mamas, anyone with a question...just
type a single question mark and i'll let
ya know when it's your turn :) |
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21:07:36 |
SandraMort |
? |
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21:07:43 |
SandraMort |
HAHAHAHA I win ;) |
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21:07:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
ok sandra, you're first! |
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21:07:46 |
Webmama_Tina |
LOL |
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21:07:57 |
SandraMort |
Well, YEAH, I got here 90 minutes early
to make sure I was first! LOL |
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21:08:03 |
SandraMort |
I have a 21 month old son who has been
ec'd since birth. He has, in the past,
used the ASL sign for POTTY but is
currently not using it as part of his
vocabulary, though we sign and cue with
him. |
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21:08:50 |
SandraMort |
He was nearly \graduated\" by 9 months,
but when e started crawling, he entered
a \"pause\" and has not been reliable
since. Currently, we catc about two
poops a week, and almost never any pee,
and it's frustrating :)" |
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21:09:16 |
sarahjbuckley |
How is he when you remind him ? |
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21:09:20 |
SandraMort |
He's not interested in having privacy,
naked time doesn't help, more frequent
or less frequent reminders don't help,
cloth training pants or naked time don't
help |
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21:09:39 |
SandraMort |
He usually refuses to go, waits until
I'm distrated and eliminated (diaper,
training pants or floor, depending on
his state of dress) |
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21:09:44 |
SandraMort |
distracted |
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21:09:50 |
sarahjbuckley |
Waht is your sense of whre he is at with
it all? |
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21:10:25 |
SandraMort |
My sense is that there's something
really obvious that I'm missing but that
his late speech skills are preventing
him from telling me what. It's
frustrating, thoug I have no regrets
about going this route. |
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21:10:37 |
sarahjbuckley |
Where does he usually pee and poop? |
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21:11:16 |
SandraMort |
diaper, training pants, floor, though a
few times a week he uses a potty (we
have several, as well as a reducer,
which he likes to sit on but won't use) |
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21:11:42 |
sarahjbuckley |
IS he comunicative in other ways? Is he
happy and co-operative around other
issues like food or is it part of a
general \I'll do it my way\" sort of
thing do you think?" |
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21:12:19 |
SandraMort |
Yes, I think it's probably an
independence thing, and that he wants me
to do (or not do) something, but I
haven't a clue what. |
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21:12:31 |
sarahjbuckley |
Have you had times of completely
removing any message or pressure and
letting him do what he wants? |
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21:12:35 |
SandraMort |
So I patiently wait for him to decide
it's time and I'm sure it'll be
overnight when he does |
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21:12:48 |
SandraMort |
Yes, he takes himself to the potty a
couple of times a week |
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21:12:48 |
sarahjbuckley |
How do you feel about it? |
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21:12:52 |
SandraMort |
I'm not concerned. |
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21:13:11 |
SandraMort |
It would be NICE for him to graduate but
there's no stress or pressure over it |
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21:13:49 |
SandraMort |
That would sort of defeat the purpose of
ec'ing, you know? |
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21:13:58 |
sarahjbuckley |
Well, maybe you will need to let him
decide, I think there are huge autonomy
issues in this area, I fould that any
pressure from me would lead my dd in teh
opposite direction. |
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21:14:21 |
SandraMort |
*nod* Oh, I know. I'm waiting
patiently. Just thought maybe there was
some insight that might clue me in to
the thing I'm missing. |
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21:14:25 |
SandraMort |
Thanks anyway. |
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21:14:26 |
sarahjbuckley |
Also, have you gotten onto the EC chat
lists about it? |
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21:14:33 |
SandraMort |
Yeah, they haven't come up with much
useful. |
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21:14:51 |
SandraMort |
I'm on the big EC list, as well as the
regional one. |
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21:14:52 |
sarahjbuckley |
Is his development on track in other
areas? |
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21:15:03 |
SandraMort |
No, he's \delayed\" (if you believe in
such things(" |
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21:15:22 |
SandraMort |
He talks very little, but communicates
well, as my older daughter did. Walked
late also. |
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21:15:46 |
sarahjbuckley |
Maybe it is a bit part of that slowness
for him, you may need to be patient, as
I can see you have been, he is lucky to
have you as his mama! |
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21:16:10 |
SandraMort |
Heh. He's my third kid. I got all the
panicking about delays over with my
first. :) |
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21:16:20 |
SandraMort |
Thank you \ |
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21:16:31 |
sarahjbuckley |
Good on you, and blessings |
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21:16:43 |
SandraMort |
You as well |
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21:17:22 |
sarahjbuckley |
Next question, Tina? |
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21:17:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
anyone else have a question for sarah?
just type a single question mark to let
me know |
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21:17:57 |
SandraMort |
? |
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21:17:58 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
. |
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21:18:06 |
SandraMort |
Kam, by all means, you go first |
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21:18:11 |
Webmama_Tina |
kameron was that supposed to be a
question mark? LOL |
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21:18:38 |
Webmama_Tina |
woops |
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21:18:40 |
SandraMort |
Kam? Had a question? |
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21:18:51 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
no.. i was booted |
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21:19:05 |
Webmama_Tina |
oh ok, sandra...another question? |
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21:19:08 |
SandraMort |
Oh, ok. I saw a . and thougt it might
have been a ? by accident |
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21:19:16 |
SandraMort |
Sure, if there's time :) |
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21:19:27 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
o wait.. im just curious on boys and
PT'ing? what age is best? |
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21:19:48 |
sarahjbuckley |
Sorry Sandra, not sure what PTing is? |
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21:19:51 |
SandraMort |
Potty training |
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21:19:56 |
SandraMort |
I recommend before college ;) |
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21:20:02 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
lol |
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21:20:27 |
SandraMort |
Well... unless it's a community
college. I don't wanna go travelling to
change diapers or nurse my kids. |
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21:20:31 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
my son is 2.5 and doesn't seem into it |
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21:20:55 |
Webmama_Tina |
that was weird....i got booted too |
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21:20:56 |
sarahjbuckley |
Well, I think its up to the individual
child, some are ready early, just pick
it up by watching and copying, some are
more sensitive around the issues, liek
your son maybe |
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21:21:10 |
Webmama_Tina |
that rarely happens to me, hm, wonder if
the system is having issues tonite |
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21:21:29 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
tina, i was getting the boot all night
lastnight |
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21:21:44 |
Webmama_Tina |
hm, weird |
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21:21:52 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
his dr says try around 3, cuz boys are
harder.. is that true? |
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21:22:38 |
sarahjbuckley |
I think that wearing no pants helsp too,
good to get toddlres interested then see
how it goes. It's awhole new issue I
think because of disposables keeping
kids so dry, they aren't getting those
signals... |
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21:23:45 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
we bought pull ups and he refuses to
wear them, and we put him on the potty
and he hates that .. but i caught him
naked the other day after taking off his
poopy diaper and he was wiping himself |
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21:24:01 |
sarahjbuckley |
I think between 2 and 3 is good, some
children are intersted before that. EC
ios good because we follow our
children's instincts to eliminate and
don't ignore them, the hard things is
foir teh child to get that reconnection
with conventional toilet traini |
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21:24:03 |
SandraMort |
The range of normal is so wide, it's
amazing. Even within one family, my
daugter was in (cloth!) diapers until 4,
and my first son started asking to use
the toilet at a year old. |
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21:24:55 |
sarahjbuckley |
Yes, I agree Sandra, I think it's quite
adiscipline as a parent to allow and
support but not pressure children to PT |
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21:25:00 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
so I guess Ill wait till he is more into
it |
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21:25:22 |
Webmama_Tina |
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21:25:34 |
sarahjbuckley |
I'd also suggest talking about it in teh
course of family life, if you are
comfortable, letting him see you or
other family members in the toilet |
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21:25:56 |
sarahjbuckley |
My dd was fascinated by her older sister
on teh toilet! |
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21:26:13 |
sarahjbuckley |
How old is your son Kam? |
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21:26:55 |
sarahjbuckley |
Also, can you give him diaper-free time
so he can tune into his body functions? |
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21:27:17 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
2.5 |
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21:27:50 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
sarah, he is always running around
naked.. i ask if he wants to get on the
toilet and he says no |
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21:28:21 |
Webmama_Tina |
i think balancingact has a question for
you sarah |
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21:28:29 |
Webmama_Tina |
when you're done with kameron, i mean :) |
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21:28:34 |
sarahjbuckley |
That;s great Kam, could you leave afew
potties around (we hasd 3!) and see if
he is interested spontaneously? |
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21:28:45 |
Webmama_Tina |
current chatter: Kameron-N-Madelyn
...upcoming chatters: balancingact |
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21:29:22 |
sarahjbuckley |
OK Tina, hope that is helpful Kam, I
wouldn't be worried, you are doing well! |
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21:29:23 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
Oh, i guess I could do that.. have a
few.. not just one |
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21:29:30 |
Kameron-N-Madelyn |
ok thanks |
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21:29:36 |
sarahjbuckley |
Thanks Kam |
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21:29:38 |
rainbowthespian |
Hello! |
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21:29:52 |
Webmama_Tina |
balancingact, did you have a question
for sarah? |
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21:30:04 |
Webmama_Tina |
hi rainbow! glad you joined us! |
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21:30:57 |
balancingact |
First of all...THANK YOU SJB for your
wonderful book and articles, my ?
concerns the physiology of the placenta
seperating from the uterine wall, a
nurse told me that there is a risk of
the blood flowing back in from baby if
they do not clamp right away? |
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